This topic is something I feel very strongly about so hear me out…
Definition of feminism
1 : the theory of the political, economic, and social equality of the sexes
2 : organized activity on behalf of women's rights and interests
Unfortunately, I feel that this word, this idea, has been skewed in today’s America.
Let me just start this by saying that I am so incredibly proud to be a woman in America today. I am so grateful for the strong women that went before me and fought to gain the rights I am fortunate enough to have today. I feel so blessed to be able to raise my daughter in a society where she is able to thrive and flourish. I’m able to raise her to believe that she really CAN be anything that she sets her mind to. She CAN have things if she works hard to gain them. I don't have to make her hide. I don't have to make her believe that she is ONLY good enough. She can be more than that. She can be more than a wife if she chooses. She can be more than a bearer of children if she chooses. She can be more than someone’s property. She can be seen. She can have a voice. She can speak what she believes. She can LIVE what she believes.
We’re very lucky. We’ve got it good.
My problem is that the word “feminist” seems to have gotten twisted somewhere along the way. It seems to have turned into something that I don't want to be and I don't want to raise my daughter to be.
See, the thing is, we have earned the right to be considered equal….and we are. Women have equal rights. Women are not discriminated against, at least not because they are female. If a woman wants birth control…she can get it. If a woman wants to have an abortion…she can get one. If a woman wants a job…she can get one. If a woman wants to breastfeed her child…she can. If a woman wants to run for a political office…she can.
This is the part where I want to say “WAKE UP AMERICAN WOMEN!!!!!!!!!”
Sometimes you have to WORK for the thing you want and sometimes you have to PAY FOR IT. Why should we be handed things just because we were born female? Why should we be entitled to receive free birth control? Why should we be entitled to paid maternity leave? You know what I think? I think that if I want to take birth control, I should have to pay for it the same way I would anything else that I wanted. I think that if I want to have children and I want to stay away from my job for a period of time, I should pay for it. My boss certainly didn't ask me to become pregnant. Why should they be required to pay me to stay home? They are still paying their male employees who are actually present and covering my duties.
Now, don't get me wrong. There have been plenty of studies that show how these “bonuses” boost overall performance and morale in the workplace, and that's great. And if an employer wants to run a workplace full of boosted morale and happy employees than that’s even better! However, I believe that should be up to the employer. I mean, you don't accept a job without knowing the pay and benefits right?
Okay, I’m straying from my point.
My point is that what I’ve seen from these Women’s Marches has me concerned. I suppose I’m really not sure what the goal is. From what I understand these were a few of the basic points:
“We want Trump to know we have a voice.”
“We want to ‘take back’ the ‘P’ word”
“Back the funding of Planned Parenthood”
“To hold Trump accountable for his statements and actions”
“Opposition and protest to Trump being elected”
“Protect our rights as women”
Okay…again….women do have a voice, no one took it away. No one is taking our rights away.
I dont want to “take back the P word”…I don't want that in mine or my daughter’s or my son’s vocabulary at all. In fact, if I heard my child say “this p**** grabs back (written on many shirts and posters in the march)” I would be ashamed and embarrased. Remember, adults, you don't have to jump off a bridge just because the person infont of you did. Maybe instead of plastering these things all over our posters and clothes AND OUR HEADS (I mean, REALLY??? These hats…c’mon) we could teach our next generation that what he said was wrong and that we need to hold ourselves to a higher standard. You know sometimes when we respect ourselves and act with dignity and grace, people treat us with such.
I do believe that Planned Parenthood does some good. I do agree that there are women who are benefited from this organization. I DO NOT agree with abortion. I feel that there is always another option. Feel free to disagree with me or argue your points about certain circumstances but I’m set on this topic. But that’s beside this point. EVEN IF Planned Parenthood lost their Federal funding, they would not be entirely defunded. They receive other funding as well. Women would still have access to all the same benefits but, here comes that nasty little point that women hate, it may cost you. You wont lose your right to your body. Even if these points are handed over to the states, you still have access to the care. You may have to work for it, you may have to pay for it, you may have to travel for it, but you still have access to it.
Protesting the election or our President? Well, ladies, guess what: unless he breaks the law in office, which he has not done to this point in his few days as our President, he is just that, our President. If you reside in the great United States, he is your President. Whether you like him or not, whether you agree with him or not, he was fairly elected to lead this country. If you want to make a change, Like President Obama said "Grab a clipboard, get some signatures, and run for office yourself”…no ones stopping you.
I want to raise a STRONG woman. I want to be one.
To me, that doesn't mean wearing a vagina hat and normalizing vulgar language. To me, it doesn't mean expecting things for free. To me, it doesn't mean protesting the peaceful transition of leadership. To me, it doesn't mean showing my whole body publicly.
To me, being a strong woman is being a wife that respects and honors my husband. It’s being a mother that raises my children in a way that honors God and brings them respect. It’s raising my son to respect and honor women. It’s showing him how to be a man of God. It’s being a neighbor that can be trusted and depended upon. It’s being a friend who is supportive and encouraging. It’s treating my body with respect. It’s walking with grace and dignity. It’s showing kindness and not being judgmental. It’s being a steward for the Lord.
I am always willing to learn. I am always willing to listen to other opinions and viewpoints.
These are my views and opinions based on my Faith. I live my life and raise my family according to God’s Word to the best of my ability.
I believe that women are beautiful and powerful. I am grateful that God chose me to be one in this country where I’m free. My hope is that we can use these freedoms in a way that makes us strong and respected and in a way that brings us honor.